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I broke up with my fiance within the past week and UGH I'm just so worried it was a mistake. But usually when I think about it pretty hard I realize it wasn't.
We dated for two years, broke up for another two, and this April started talking again. We didn't make things "official" until June ... THEN I GOT PREGNANT TWO WEEKS LATER. So, we got engaged, started planning our life, etc. Then I had the miscarriage.
It took me a while but suddenly I realized that we had made those decisions based on being pregnant. We'd hardly had time back together (I wavered for so long, while seeing another guy before deciding, who is completely ignoring me now) and I certainly couldn't marry him. That was crazy! We had some problems but I first started to really consider ending things when my friend asked me to go out with her and I realized that guys actually pay attention to me and started noticing how much I want to be single. For a long time, with my ex, I thought he was kind of the best I'd ever have, and now I don't think so. I don't think I should be with him if we have these issues and I'm wanting to meet new people so badly.
BUT he also has been one of my best friends. He knows me very intimately and I think understands me in a way most people don't. Should I really be throwing that away??? I still feel like I'm not sure my decision was the best.
Could you keep up the friendship? It certainly sounds like you've made the right decision- if you consider making it in the first place then it's the right one.
Oh, I don't think so. We don't live near each other and right now he currently hates me. He was in love with me and trying to reunite with me for a year and there was no friendship, only random messages/texts about loving me and missing me, but refused to ever actually talk because it would be too "painful."
Things are all weird as usual. The thing is as I have said I have been with my bf for 20 years but recently I fell rather stupidly for some 25 year old cutie off the internet (midlife crisis) I told my bf that I didn't feel like I belonged to him anymore, which was horrible, and I told him I wanted to leave. Well things have got better between us but my bf is constantly watching what I do now, he is always reading my emails and my posts to make sure the same thing doesn't happen again. I feel bad for him because he didn't deserve that treatment but now me and 25 year old cutie are ok with eachother and friendly (nothing more :p) my bf has told me to never talk to him again. Maybe that is fair. Am I being a bitch?!! Feel free to say yes anyone if you think it is the case! I am not sensitive to criticism.
And every little gust that chances through Will dance in the dust of me and you
Well, I don't particularly believe in relationships right now. But, as I'd like to be committed and married at some point, I'd like : complete honesty, an appreciation of each other that is less "butterflies in tummy" and more family-esque, pure and total commitment, no option of an ending, so much security and trust in each other that there is little to no jealousy, truly wanting the other person to be happy, an understanding of each other that makes fights merely a way to learn about each other -- not a way to tear each other down.
I have a lot of complaints about the relationships I've been in. I've only been in one that I feel was decently healthy, but that crashed and burned for utterly unplanned and out-of-control reasons and now there is nothing.
That sounds good to me. I think that makes sense and I think I have that. There is a small part of me that is like a small child still hanging onto the notion of that one big dramatic, romantic love (well a rather large part of me!). Slowly I think I'm growing up and realising that I have a good companion for life here.
It sucks that things ended like that, but it's good that you are able to be out of a relationship and be happy.
And every little gust that chances through Will dance in the dust of me and you
Well, what do you mean by "one big dramatic, romantic love"? What is it that you're wanting?
I find relationships fascinating because I've witnessed so many miserable ones. I'm always pleasantly surprised by a couple that seems genuinely happy.
Sometimes a relationship can be so intoxicating that your ability to make rational decisions is severely impaired. Having experience in that area...I strongly recommend against basing a long-term relationship on that kind of 'love'. It may be absolutely incredible at times, but it's impossible to consistently maintain the euphoria. The withdrawals are a bitch. I also strongly recommend paying serious attention to the behaviors, likes, and dislikes of the person you are considering for that relationship. If there is anything that sends up a red flag, and it is something that you can't live with, don't even think that you can get him or her to change. Chances are that it's not going to happen. I'm through preaching for the moment. Just drop your offering in the collection box on your way out.
I think what I mean by that is pretty much what polli just said! Those crazy initial "I'd do anything for you" kinda feelings. You are totally right polli it's not a good basis for a relationship, those feelings never last. I'm a total addict.
*goes cold turkey*
And every little gust that chances through Will dance in the dust of me and you
The ability to talk for hours about similar interests is a big plus. Take it from an old man...the ability to communicate is really important to continued desire for a partner when the body chemistry weakens it's stranglehold.